💓 Reclaiming Self-Love After Sexual Trauma – with Lisa Enik Indrayani

Umaversity
May 4
3 min read

Updated: Oct 10

Interview by Jo Sarah | Founder of Umaversity

What if healing from sexual trauma could lead to deeper self-love, true empowerment, and lasting peace?

In this brave and heart-opening conversation, trauma psychologist and vitality coach Lisa Enik Indrayani joins Jo Sarah to unpack the journey of healing after sexual trauma — not just mentally, but physically, emotionally, and spiritually. Her approach blends clinical expertise with embodied tools, personal truth, and compassion.

📺 Watch the full Interview on the Umaversity Podcast

Who are you, Lisa — and what do you do?

“I’m a trauma sexologist and vitality coach. I guide women and men in healing after sexual trauma — helping them reclaim their bodies, voices, and lives. Vitality coaching adds the layer of emotional, physical, and spiritual well-being. Because healing is holistic.”

Why is it crucial to talk about sexual trauma?

“Society often looks away. But this trauma is everywhere — across all layers of society. And the real numbers? Higher than you think. One in four women is reported, but many more never speak up. I never did. I was abused by my father for years — and never filed a report. Shame silences us.”

Where does shame after sexual trauma come from?

“The moment a child is sexually abused, their self-protection gets destroyed. Their ‘no’ is pushed away. The trauma hijacks their inner structure — how they think, feel, behave. Dissociation kicks in. That’s survival. But the body stores everything. Trauma literally lives in the body.”

You talk about “inner structure.” What is that?

“It’s your core. Your values, your voice, your boundaries. Trauma fractures that — the perpetrator can live inside you like a parasite, even when they’re long gone. That’s why survivors often live extremes: addiction, overcontrol, or complete shutdown. Healing rebuilds that structure.”

How did you personally reclaim your body?

“I started in 2013. Slowly. I stood in front of mirrors, spoke affirmations, learned to say no. I gave myself permission to feel joy, peace, anger — and rest. I worked with therapists, read, studied, and eventually became the expert I once needed.”

What if you don’t remember your trauma — but you feel something?

“That’s valid. Many survivors dissociate. But the body keeps score. If your body is sending signs — rare illnesses, chronic discomfort, a deep inner knowing — that’s your body asking you to heal. Trust it. Work with someone who can help you decode that wisdom.”

How can survivors begin to feel safe again in their bodies?

“Start by breaking the silence. Speak to someone — a trauma therapist, or a safe space like Umaversity. Then, reconnect with your body through breathwork, visualization, meditation. Bit by bit, you reclaim your ‘yes’ and ‘no’.”

What if I know someone who’s experienced sexual trauma?

“Listen — not just with your ears, but with your heart. Don’t rush them. Don’t offer solutions. Just be there, consistently. Healing isn’t a quick fix — it’s a journey.”